Kink, BDSM, Fetish & Vanilla

communication and intimacy alchemy of erosWe are excited about the many different ways people express and explore their sexuality and ways of relating. We welcome the entire spectrum of sexual expression: vanilla, as well as kink, fetishes, and BDSM.

The challenge for people who identify as kinky, who practice BDSM, or who are interested in exploring alternative forms of sexuality, is to find a therapist who is non-judgmental and who has an understanding of the dynamics that go on in sexual relationships involving erotic power exchanges.

Sex-Positive and Kink-Friendly Therapy:

We provide a safe and non-judgmental space to explore issues around sexuality, desire, passion, ecstasy, power, intimacy and communication. We do not prescribe fixed formulas or a one-size fits all approach for all relationships and in all situations.

Our emphasis is on developing your awareness of the inherent wisdom in yourself and in your relationship(s), and how to process and work with your unique direction, while integrating it into your every day life.

A Kink-Aware Therapist Can Help You Explore:

Awareness Skills and Practices for Safe, Fun, and Consensual Kinky Sex

    • Communication skills and practices for kinky partnerships as well as vanilla-kink partnerships, for example, around desires, boundaries, fears, wishes, needs, limitations, expectations, and disappointments
    • The art of building a strong and grounded container: for example, around building trust, creating safe and conscious consensual play, and incorporating joint debriefing practices and aftercare
    • Dealing with ‘anti-sex’ attitudes in the culture and/or personal upbringing, and how these attitudes impact our sexual expressions

Power, Conflict and Red Flags

  • Growing your awareness of your internal relationship to power and how to use power in ways that are conscious, inclusive, and exciting for all parties involved
  • Exploring and dealing with ‘red flags’ around BDSM practices, for example, around abuse, trauma or unresolved anger issues
  • Dealing with issues around coming out
  • Conflict resolution, repairing and dealing with misunderstandings, blocks and barriers

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Ways to Deepen and Expand your Experiences

    • Fantasy and dream exploration
    • Intimacy and connection in the context of Kink and BDSM: learning how to make room for and bringing in all of our different parts and polarities (for example, power and vulnerability, control and surrender, boldness and shyness)
    • Alchemy of Kink: Kinky sex as pathway to transformation and personal and spiritual growth
    • Exploring the relationship between Kink and Tantra, and how Tantric practices can enrich and expand your experiences of Kink
    • Dealing with diversity dynamics, for example, around age differences, health issues or cultural, racial, gender, or ethnic differences