HOW TO FOLLOW THE WISDOM OF THE BODY IN THE CONTEXT OF SEX AND INTIMACY

A lot has been said about the wisdom of the body, how the body never lies, the body knows, we need to listen to our bodies and so forth.

But what does this actually mean in practice, especially when it comes to sexuality and intimacy?

What does it mean to listen to our bodies when we feel our bodies aren’t doing what we want them to do or what we think our bodies should do?

How does the wisdom of our bodies play out in practice in the realm of intimacy and how can we bring that wisdom into the relationship?

Most of us have a tendency to tell ourselves a story about what’s going on and why it’s going on and what it means, without exploring the actual experience itself.

We may slap labels on our experience, such as, “because I can’t maintain close eye contact when my partner looks at me lovingly, this means I may have an avoidant attachment style” or, “I’m too wounded to let love in”, and so forth.

While learning about attachment styles and your childhood wounds can be very useful in terms of seeing certain patterns in yourself, it’s not so useful to slap a label on our experiences because it closes down the mystery. You’ve put yourself in a ‘this is me box’ versus seeing yourself as an ever-changing, ever-moving process and letting the signals of your body reveal its meaning to you by exploring them with an open mind and curiosity.

Watch the video to see a real-life example of how to explore the wisdom of the body in practice in an intimate context.