Skills Share: Relationships and Intimacy –
What’s Sex gotta do with it?
Exploring Sexuality and Intimacy: a Process Oriented Approach

Facilitated by Niyati Evers and Robert King

This Skills Share is part of a series focusing on growing our awareness as therapists of:
– Common edges and dynamics around sexual and intimacy issues
– Expanding our lens in working with sexual and intimacy issues
– Exploring our own relationship to our unconscious bias and edges around sexuality and intimacy and how to use that awareness in working with clients

There are many cultural beliefs about sexuality that influence all of us, often unconsciously. Some examples of this are religious conditionings around ‘sex as sinful’; beliefs around how ‘sex is driven by chemistry’ and ‘once the chemistry is gone, the sex is gone’; that sex should happen spontaneously and that you can’t ‘plan for sex’; that sexual desire automatically diminishes when you are with a partner for a long time or that as we age we will be less sexuality active or attractive. Many of these painful and limiting beliefs impact not only our clients but also influence our ability to work with sexual issues as therapists!

We believe that sexuality is potentially an alchemical vessel, a platform where we can express and explore many different parts of ourselves: our power and our vulnerability, our wildness and passion, our love and tenderness and even ecstasy and transcendence. It’s also where people hit up against some of the most unconscious, challenging as well as exciting edges, on a personal, relational, emotional and spiritual level.

A Process-Oriented approach views sexuality, eroticism and intimacy as a Dreaming Process. There isn’t a one size fits all solution for sexual issues: as with every other process, our approach will depend on our awareness of signals and edges, the relationship culture, what’s trying to emerge, and so forth.

The more we as therapists are in touch with the enormous potential Eros holds for us personally as well as working with our own edges and unconscious biases around sexuality and intimacy, the more those dynamics in our clients can also become visible and accessible to us.

On October 11, from 5-7pm PST, we’ll be hosting our first ‘Working with Sexuality and Intimacy – Skills Share. Skills shares are once-a-month events where Process Work practitioners freely share some of their skills and interests with other practitioners and learners. The skills shares are free of charge and open to anyone interested in or currently practicing Process Work.

There is no need to pre-register for this event. To join the meeting, click on this Zoom link: Wednesday, 11 October, from 5pm- 7pm on Zoom: https://zoom.us/j/8581280425