Sex can be the playground where we experiment with less familiar parts and energies in a safe and consensually agreed upon way. Life is where we then get to express and integrate the parts of us we play with sexually. By aligning the two, sex and life can become an integrated dance, each infusing the other.
You cannot separate sexual growth from personal and relationship growth. By trying to keep our sexual space ‘hurt and risk free’ we actually create the potential for much bigger dangers over time. Keeping your sex life alive means looking at things that are risky to face AND having risky conversations.